Is it Possible to be 100% honest in relatonship
Honesty is a good behaviour that we should have in ourselves. But the question is, is it possible to be 100% honest in relationship?.Relationship that I mentioned here is the relationship between our family members, our friends, our lovers, lecturers, employer and being honest generally. From my point of view, being 100% honest in relationships are not recomended or not possible , eventhough honest is good, but sometimes it can hurt other's feelings and sometimes can be painfull and may lead to distruption of a relationship.
Generally, as i mentioned before, being honest is good and we had always been told to be honest since we were a child.But being honest is not that easy, it requires inner strenght and courage to be a honest man. For instance, if you saw your best friend skipping class, would you be honest enough to tell the teacher about it , if you were asked? will you be called a honest student or a backstabbing friend?or if you are lucky enough, you'll get both!. and would it be included as killing two birds with one stone?I dont think so, it's like comitting suicide if you ask me.
Furthermore, being 100% honest between our family members is also very dangerous, not only to ourselves, but also to the family bond that we have since we were born in that family. Would you risk your happy family bond just to be honest? I have heard a bad conscicuences happened to one of my friends from being honest. He told his mom that he smokes, and you know what happened? His mom didn't want to speak with him for a month and worst case scenario is, no food for him in the miserable month. Wow, great price for being honest right?. Imagine eating noodles everyday because of honesty, not worth it.
Beside that,between our friends, its also not possible to be 100% honest, because even you are very close to them, you will never know their true intentions or you dont really know their true nature. This is enough to not being 100% honest to them, because they can backstab you anytime if given the chance.By being honest, you also may loose a friend and gain enemies. For example, you saw your friends smoking in the toilet,your teacher asked about your friends and you honestly tell your teacher about them, and your friends get punished, and from that moment they definitely wont consider you as a friend anymore.Eventhough my example is not very rasional, but believe me, it actually happens, and I had been a witness to this kind of situation , and guess what happened to the honest kid? He had only 3 friends in school, and suffer a very bad life in school.So this proves that being honest can make you loose your friends and increase your enemies.
In addition , being honest to our lecturers also not good, because it can effect our points and sometimes the mood of the class. For instance, about our assignments, sometimes we dont have enough time to finish them, so we use the information in the internet, copy paste the information. If our lecturers asked us where we get the info, and we honestly tell them its from the internet, they will without a doubt give us bad marks for the assignments and dont fantasize about having bonus marks for being honest, because they'll be none. Same goes when our lecturer ask us in class, do we have any questions? Most of the student will just say No, eventhough actually they have plenty questions in their mind, because if they have a Question at the end of the class, then that will eventually make the class end late than supposed to, and all their peers will blame the questioner about it.
As a Conclusion, being honest can be hazardous,But not being honest doesnt mean that you should lie, just remain silent is good enough, because silent is golden and if they keep forcing you to answer them, ask them to read the miranda rights, and talk to your lawyer, and of course a little lie wont hurt that much. But sometimes honesty is needed in relationships, because honesty also can preserve the bond that we have. Usually not being honest is connected to our bad doings, so to be a honest person, we must try our best to avoid doing bad things and we will have no problem of being honest, and if we're a good person, so our friends will feel ashamed to do bad things in front of us and we have nothing to tell our teacher when we we're asked. But i still stick with my opinion that it's not possible to be 100% honest in any kind of
relationships.
